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Packing the perfect diaper bag is an art -- a feat of organizational triumph crossed with future-telling powers and more than a little bit of OCD. And alas, it is not an art I have personally perfected.
Before Noah was born, I went online and found some insane "diaper bag checklist" thing and followed it to the letter. I had extra outfits! Sunscreen! 17 spare diapers! Pacifiers ready to go in separate sanitary plastic baggies! Vaseline! And then he was born and didn't fit into any of the outfits or diapers I'd packed, didn't like any of the pacifiers I'd chosen and you know when I figured this stuff out? When I was out. In the wild. On my own. When there was nothing I could do about any of it.
And slowly, since the checklist was sooooo long and involved, I quickly lost track of everything that was in the bag and could no longer do a fast, efficient inventory of the bag before leaving the house, meaning I was regularly digging around in a giant black hole of a bag for diapers and finding none, but oh, THANK GOD I still have this unopened travel-sized jar of Vaseline!
By the time Ezra was born, I'd learned to streamline to an almost insane degree. Packing the diaper bag for a newborn seemed like a ridiculously easy feat, especially after a few months of venturing out into the world with a potty-training toddler. (Hint: even more spare outfits than you ever thought possible, plus a TON of those cloth diaper burp rags, unless you want to explain why you had to rip open a package of paper towels in Aisle 5 to the cashier at Target.) Of course, this meant that my cocky self got stranded sans vital supplies ALL OVER AGAIN.
Restock Checklist, Don't Leave the House Without It Portion:
Restock Checklist, Set-It-And-Forget-It Portion
(i.e., the stuff you need but probably don't need to double-check for every time you leave the house)
Restock Checklist, Depends-On-Baby/Season/Type of Outing Portion:
Related:
- Five Steps to a Flawless Diaper Bag
- How to Pack a Diaper Bag for a Dude
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Comments (16):
swankette said:
I find a swaddling blanket to be worth its weight in gold. It takes up virtually no real estate and makes a handy blanket for sitting the kiddo down on the ground/ cover to lay over him in the car seat or during a spontaneous nap/ plaything for a game of peek-a-boo.
Posted on November 10, 2009 02:16
miriam said:
ditto on the receiving blanket. I just used mine to change the baby in the trunk (the floor of my trunk is level with the bumper).
Posted on November 10, 2009 02:41
Georgina said:
You seem to have forgotten to take a book for those "oh my god the baby has fallen asleep I will buy coffee and enjoy the silence" moments.
And perhaps also a hip flask for those days when the sleep moments are elusive!
Posted on November 10, 2009 08:41
Olivia said:
Most of the time I carry a large purse with a diaper, wipes, changing pad, burp cloth and pacifier. Depending on the outing I will add a blanket and a toy.
Posted on November 10, 2009 08:45
Nicole said:
Those changing pods - can you put a pocket cloth diaper in them (yes, I use cloth diapers when I'm out and about)?
Also, I skip the change pad and use a blanket layered with a receiving blanket instead. A friend made me a square baby blanket which is the perfect size for the bag I'm using. I use that and then I have a changing pad and a blanket as needed.
And for transporting food for her: baby cubes. Put the food in them, chuck them in the freezer, throw them in your bag and they're thawed by the time the baby wants to eat them.
Posted on November 10, 2009 08:50
T said:
Yes, receiving blanket! Makes a great impromptu changing pad, light layer in case it's a bit chillier than anticipated. etc etc etc. I have a 2.5 y/o and still keep one in the diaper bag.
As far as diaper disposing bags go, we use the bags our newspaper comes in every a.m. Also, for newborns, I strongly recommend carrying the clean clothes in a gallon-size ziploc. If you have to deal w/ major poop/spitup, dirty clothes get all nice and sealed up in the ziploc and clean clothes go on babe.
Posted on November 10, 2009 09:38
Cobblestone said:
Amazing my preschous baybay hasn't died. I've got a messenger style diaper bag from JJ Cole (love it!) and it has diapers/pad/wipes/onesie (or somethings warmer in the fall/winter) ... and my keys and wallet.
Posted on November 10, 2009 11:04
Mouse said:
I learned about carrying an extra shirt for myself the hard way. It will definitely be in the next baby's bag.
I also loved our changing wallet--pad with a couple storage parts that fold out at the side. We could fit a thin box of wipes, a onesie, and a diaper or two (one if a cloth set, two if disposable). It was perfect alone for the shorter trips and easy to throw in the bag for longer ones.
Posted on November 10, 2009 13:00
Doug said:
I've found it's really helpful to have a light weight backpack style diaper bag with just the basics (diapers, wipes, snacks for dad) - and then in the trunk of the car I have a big bag that's stuffed with everything - extra clothing, tons of diapers, tons of wipes, entire boxes of things like purell wipes. We could probably go a week out of that thing. That keeps us light and worst case we only have to retreat to the car, not home. If a series of errands somehow starts to cut into the backpack supplies you can always restock from the trunk bag mid-day.
If you're a car person, it's a nice way to go...
Posted on November 10, 2009 13:04
C said:
I suck at this stuff...and honestly as long as you're always near a target, it's all replaceable, which is why we had a HUGE number of "extra" bags of size 1 diapers...so many times I left without any because of (see Amy's previous post) new mom brain.
Posted on November 10, 2009 13:15
lisa said:
Great list!
The receiving blanket works great as a nursing cover as well.
I also pack at least two outfits... There have been so many times that the *one* spare outfit would get messed up.
Posted on November 10, 2009 14:10
Heather said:
I don't actually carry anything on me except a burp cloth in my purse. (now I have just jinxed myself) But I do keep a backpack in the car loaded with diapers/wipes/etc.
I agree on the receiving blanket and the spare outfit. One time I was nursing my baby in the "mothers' room" in one of those big box stores and another lady who was nursing her son had the unfortunate experience of an explosive diaper with no spare outfit for the baby. Lesson learned!
Posted on November 10, 2009 18:40
Someone Being Me said:
I keep my big fully stocked diaper bag in the car floorboard below the infant car seat. It has all the diapers, changes of clothes, sunscreen, bandaids, nursing cover etc for both boys. I also keep a full size box of wipes tucked under the seat. I no longer carry a diaper bag with me inside anywhere. I keep a small package of wipes in my purse, some hand santizer and maybe a diaper but I figured out that most of the time (like 99%) I was taking the baby out to the car for the diaper/clothing change anyways. My purse is big enough to tuck in a bottle or sippy cup if needed.
Posted on November 13, 2009 18:40
beth said:
I would add that with the second baby, especially if the first is toddler age, I would buy a back pack type diaper bag because you will need both hands (one to hold baby the other to hold toddler's hand) and you don't need the shoulder bag to be falling off your shoulder knocking into the toddler or hitting the baby in the head in the car seat.
Posted on November 16, 2009 09:25
stacy said:
Before having a baby, and even though I was a nanny for 10 years - I was totally that douche who was all "when I have a baby I will NEVER carry around a giant bag of stuff!! How stupid!!" Hahahaha...I was such an idiot. These days I can hardly even cram all the stuff I need into the large diaper bag! I tried valiantly to "make do" with just the basics in a small messenger bag. I was a hip mom! I wasn't buying into the Baby Industrial Complex! No sir! Yeah -- and then, I got caught too many times without the "right stuff." And then my kid starting eating solid food and needing toys to entertain her. And then she gave up breastfeeding is now on the bottle. Even more stuff to pack and prepare and remember! whee! Just today I got to the grocery store and realized I'd taken my wallet out when I sent her off with her her dad yesterday. Sigh.
Amy and readers -- I am out in public a lot and I often have to change her diaper in public restrooms where I don't really want to put the changing pad back into my diaper bag once it's been touching the public changing area -- and I don't always have a hand free to wipe the mat down before I put it in my bag. So instead of buying expensive "baby" disposable changing pads, I use the cheap bag of puppy training pads I got from the pet store. They look identical and cost half as much. And I can toss them if I feel too grossed out to put it back in my bag (or keep in the bottom of the stroller if only mildly germy). And I usually wear a tank top under my shirt, since I have had to deal with a poop explosion in public. I'd rather look silly wearing a tank top than try to get home on public transportation with a wet, poopy shirt. :P
Posted on November 16, 2009 12:13
Karen said:
I have a refrain for packing the daycare bag in the morning, because otherwise I would always forget something. It doesn't rhyme but it is kinda rhythmic and memorable.
Diapers, wipes, bag
Blanket, bib, food.
(the "bag" is the wetbag for her cloth diapers.)
I only change out the extra outfit if she uses it.
My diaper bag packing varies so much depending on where I'm going and what kind of mood I'm in... I have gone out with nothing more than the sling I was carrying her in and a diaper wallet. I like traveling light but it's not always possible or advisable.
Posted on November 16, 2009 14:04