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Published 07.02.2008 | Permanent Link | Comments (14)
Your Baby:
Two or three weeks ago, after listening to me complain about yet another crappy night of sleep, my husband asked if I wanted one of those big full-body pregnancy pillows. I said no. They're too hot, our bed is too small, I had one before and didn't really think it did anything a regular old pillow shoved between my legs couldn't have done just as well. They're a scam! Slap "maternity" onto anything and instantly charge $49.99 for it! *shakes frugal fist in direction of baby store*
My husband is away on business this week, and in equal parts celebration of having the entire bed to myself and total sleep-deprived desperation, I went out and bought a Snoogle. (GEDDIT? It's a noodle that you snuggle with. Oh, barf.) Unlike the pillow I had last time (which was promptly claimed as a bed by my dog while I was off giving birth), which WAS hot and way too easy to kick away in my sleep, this one actually stays put and is pretty darn satisfying to cuddle up to. I still woke up quite a few times during the night due to baby kicks and bladder calls, but I found it was MUCH easier to re-curl myself around the pillow and fall instantly back to sleep than with a regular pillow (which involved blindly digging around the covers for it, shoving it back into place, changing my mind and rolling over, then fluffing the pillows under my head and readjusting everything one last time -- right before realizing that I was already wide awake.).
The other persistent Husband Question I've been getting is the viability one. "When can the baby make it? If you were to go into labor right now, would the baby survive?" I don't know where this flavor of paranoia comes from, but it's clearly at the forefront of his mind -- pregnancy is all me, all mine. He gets to stand by helplessly and supply the ice cream and scoop the litter box while I'm a ticking time bomb of mystery. I think he's looking forward to the birth just to get the baby away from my incompetent, coffee-chugging hands. (The fact that his brother's wife went into premature labor at 33 weeks earlier this year probably doesn't help much either, even though our niece was ultimately just fine.)
So he was happy to hear that we've sailed past 24 weeks and that with every week that ticks by, our baby's chances improve in case something goes wrong. That said, I'm still gonna make y'all listen to the signs of early labor and symptoms you should absolutely NOT ignore at this point:
1) An increase or change in your vaginal discharge, especially if it becomes watery or tinged with blood (even just the slightest bit of pink or brown).
2) Abdominal pain or menstrual-like cramps.
3) More than four uterine contractions in an hour, even if they don't hurt or aren't timed regularly.
4) Sudden pressure in your pelvic area -- like your baby is bearing down on your cervix -- or intense pain in your lower back (especially if you haven't had any pain there).
5) Decrease in fetal movement. I'm not a fan of the set kick counts -- I know MY babies don't preform on cue or on any sort of set schedule, but at this point, if your baby does have established patterns (active at night, or after meals) that it suddenly deviates from OR you go about 24 hours without feeling any kicks, call your doctor or midwife immediately.
6) A high fever of 100 degrees or higher, or sudden vomiting that is also accompanied by pain or fever.
7) Blurred vision, severe headaches and dizziness.
8) Sudden swelling of your face, hands, legs or ankles, or suddenly gaining more than four pounds in a week.
These are annoying, I know, since so many of them can actually be completely normal. (I get headaches. I still have to occasionally bolt to the toilet to puke. And let's not even DISCUSS the many shades and textures of weirdness that is Normal Pregnancy Vaginal Discharge.) But even if everything ultimately turns out to be perfectly okay, no one is going to think you're an idiot for calling the doctor or getting checked out at Labor & Delivery. (I ended up there last time over Suspicious Watery Fluids and Decreased Fetal Movement. We spent the night listening to our suddenly wide-awake child kick the hell out of me over the monitors while the Ph testing strips consistently came up negative for amniotic fluid. But I'm still glad we went.)
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Comments (14):
LizPres said:
Cloth Diapers: We are doing it, and really like it. Buy a slew of newborn ones --- even though we didn't use them until his cord fell off, they pee and poop A LOT at the beginning. By the time our baby graduated to bigger sizes, two dozen diapers is plenty. But we needed more covers --- so we have seven covers and 24 diapers now, and needed about 48 diapers and the same seven covers (although teenier) when our baby was born.
Posted on July 2, 2008 14:24
Elizabeth said:
We used FuzziBunz pocket diapers for the first year, and loved them. But if you are using cloth, it's nice to have disposables to use for the first week or so, so that no one has to do the extra laundry when they are supposed to be doting on the new mama and her baby. And actually the diapers didn't seem to fit properly until the baby was about two weeks old (and she was only a couple ounces smaller than Noah at birth), so the disposables were good to have then. We did fine with 12 FuzziBunz (with a few extra inserts) and doing laundry every day. (We had a small, front-loading washer at that point, so 12 seemed like a good-sized load, and we didn't have to do extra rinses or anything).
Also, my daughter is now 18 months and I am still using the baby bathtub most of the time because I can't figure out how to wash her hair without getting water in her face unless she is reclined like that.
Someone gave me a really thick hooded towel for the baby that was just perfect. The ones I had picked out in a pack with some wash cloths at Target were just too thin.
Posted on July 2, 2008 15:38
eva said:
1) Not everyone has the glucose test. I didn't because I wasn't at high risk for GD and because a positive result would have led to more testing, more worrying etc. The midwife I had was fine with my decision.
2) We don't use wipes. Just bought a crapload of washcloths and a squirt bottle (for water, just plain water) and voila! Instantly soft moist cloths for the baby's bum, face, hands etc.
3) We use cloth diapers. Seems that I am a closet granola hippie chick. Started with 2 dozen newborn sized diapers - a mixture of prefolds, fitteds, and fuzzi bunz. Worked great.
Posted on July 2, 2008 15:44
Lindsey said:
One more thing you don't want to be with out at 3am- Mylecon drops. Because lets face it, "colic" actually maens "I'm sorry your kid is screaming for hours on end but really we have no idea what the problem is. That'll be $100." Let's rule out gas first eh?
Posted on July 2, 2008 15:45
Luba said:
baby wipes - even the alcohol free ones can cause diaper rash. What I have found that works great and with little to no diaper rash side effects - just plain ol water (in a small spray bottle) and gauze. I keep travel size wipes in the diaper bag for convenience though.
Posted on July 2, 2008 15:46
Dr. Maureen said:
If you want to use cloth wipes, you can use the Peri bottle from the hospital as a squirt bottle for your baby's butt. Also, consider BumGenius cloth diapers, because they are AWESOME. FuzziBunz are OK too, but BG's rule.
(I have a whole how-to thing on my blog if anyone is interested.)
Posted on July 3, 2008 09:44
Karen said:
Diaper service yay!
Cloth diapers... and no laundry. I don't actually have the baby yet, but I think it's going to be AWESOME, in so far as methods of dealing with baby pee and poop can be awesome. For the DC area peeps, there's moderndiaperservice.com.
Shortly after the 6 weeks of service I got my mom to buy us runs out, we may start doing our own... after all, we're going to have a bunch of our own cloth diapers anyway, because they are so very useful in so very many ways... so... that would be pretty easy, as long as we're up to the laundry.
Or we might switch to gDiapers. Or we might give up on the whole endeavor altogether! Who knows!
Posted on July 3, 2008 11:48
Kate said:
Weight gain: I'm due to have a boy in the same week as Amalah and I'm gaining a truly exceptional amount of weight. 10kgs to be precise. Yes, M&Ms and an exercise bike gathering dust may have something to do with it but for god sakes, I'm pregnant! Does that work? Care to take any of my extra kilos?
Posted on July 3, 2008 21:28
Melissa said:
I tried gDiapers and didn't like them. Having to tear the insert and then swish with a wand and flush... I don't know about everyone else, but that is damn hard to do when you have a baby who will! not! be! put! down!
We use cloth. We have Bum Genius 3.0. We bought 'em because they are one-size fits all. Ok, really, when she was a 6 lbs peanut we used disposables because the cloth were too large. Since she hit 7 and some odd, we've been using cloth exclusively.
The BG are easy to use (outer part works just like disposable, inner part gets stuffed into a pocket). No folding, no pins or snappis, etc.
We have 30 diapers and wash roughly every three days since she uses 6-8 per day. We line dry to save energy too.
Posted on July 8, 2008 15:00
Lorna said:
I got a snoogle at 13 weeks of pregnancy, after finding a body pillow too hot and bulky - and it is the BEST... i am now 25 weeks along and I watch telly with it curled into a spiral, then change it to folded husband cushion shape as the night wears on and then gradually my husband unfolds it as i end up sleeping... GET ONE... be warned - when i come back to bed from one of my late night toilet trips i often have to prize my husbands sleeping body from being wrapped around the snoogle.
Posted on October 28, 2008 17:30
Ebony Jenkins said:
hay am 24 weeks and all i do is eat eat until i can't eat no more just playing but am ready to have dis baby
Posted on December 5, 2008 12:56
Me said:
I too would like to give a shout out to the snoogle. I got one early as well, and now at 23 weeks I couldn't imagine sleeping without it. My husband complained that it is a wall and a bed hog. He also calls it his "replacement", but then yesterday morning after I got up I turn to the bed only to find him snuggling with the snoogle. The cats like it as well.
Posted on January 27, 2009 13:50
Della said:
Regarding the baby lotions and soaps: If you don't know which one you LOVE, buy (or ask for) trial size ones. Then, once you've tried them all, you can buy a bulk size one of your favorite brand/flavor.
Like Amy said, baby bodies are small. I use our favorite baby wash as a bubble bath about 50% of the time, my son is 14 months old, and I still have about 1/3 remaining in my second bottle.
Posted on April 27, 2009 14:46
Amy M said:
i actually don't know anyone that's used baby oil. did you use this instead of baby lotion? with baby lotion? do tell!
Posted on December 13, 2009 14:16